Okay so the Fantasia interview with E! will air tomorrow night, but before I watch the interview, I want to give my two cents. My goal is to do it in 4 points or less. Bear with me.
1. Fantasia has to be one of the most "used" celebrities we've been introduced to. In watching her show (I love reality tv it seems) we saw how many people she is now responsible for. I must say the fact that she takes it all in stride is something to admire. Then we see the stories of lawsuits of her father, and we saw her brother come and go in and out of her house because he couldn't have things his way. Either way as a family woman, I was extremely impressed with her. I gained a lot of respect for her watching her interact with her daughter and the rest of her family. For this reason when I learned of her legal issues with the wife of her boyfriend, I was a bit shocked. However the truth is Fantasia is only human.We as the public must realize celebrities are ONLY HUMAN. Humans have emotions that most of the time are extremely hard to control--be they love, hate, despair, depression, or happiness. We can all admit they are hard to get in control. And sometimes the key is NOT to get the in control but rather let them out, which brings me to my next point.
2. When one gets to the point that life is no longer worth living it's usually not just because of another person. It usually has deeper meaning than just I don't wanna deal with their mess anymore. Celebrities are often the most unhappy people on the face of the planet because not only do they have to deal with the same problems we "regular people" deal with but they have to live out their faults and insecurities publicly. It has to be a sad life. They get all these adoring fans who put them on a pedestal higher than they hold themselves, and a comparable number of naysayers waiting for their first wrong move. On top of that, they take on the primary role of bread winner, and allow too many people to depend solely on them. Some celebrities, too, must realize they are only HUMAN.
3. When a man/woman tells you they are separated from their significant other, take heed. For them to approach another person when they have unfinished business is wrong on so many levels, but that is another entry for another day. However when they approach a single person and give that information, they are giving conflicting signals. Embarking on a conquest, means there is a goal in mind. In other words, for that man or ANY PERSON, to approach another for the intention of dating gives the impression that some sort of future is a possibility. Though dating has changed over the years at my age, 23, and beyond dating someone comes with the possibility of something more--meaningful. If not then you are pretty much just "friends with benefits" and the world never hears that you even know eachother. However with the admission of being in a state of separation, he OR ANY PERSON, canceled any such future because he did not have that too offer. It was already taken by his wife, whether he lived with her or not. Yet his continuing anything with Fantasia gave her the false hope that a future could be had. Truth be told you can not plan a future with a married man. There will always be another party who has a stake in the relationship. I said all that to say this. She was not blameless but she is not solely to blame.
I should add in here that this is true for any MAN or WOMAN who knowingly goes into a situation with a married individual. It doesn't matter how famous they are: whether Angelina, Fantasia, Alicia, or Sarah from down the street.
4. Life is worth more than any circumstance and clearly God has more in store for her than what she has already done. I don't know her personally and I await the interview, as some of my thoughts may change, but for the most part I doubt they will. And for all those who say we should be praying for her instead of dwelling on what she did. I agree wholeheartedly. But there is a lesson to be learned, and sometimes God shows you through others. I too have been approached by married men. Let's face it they are about the easiest men to get these days, but they are taken, and can not offer me or anyone else any type of future. And honestly, if you want any type of real marriage, you can, in good faith break up another's without worrying if karma is real.
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